Oh humble pendulum. You are but a piece of wood shaped like an acorn hanging from 6 inches of yarn. And yet you have been my daily healthcare tool of choice since I entered healing school in 1994. Through you I can determine the status of energy systems of my clients, my loved ones, my pets, and myself– evaluating the flow of energy through the energy centers, meridians, and energy field. It helps me determine which foods are most compatible with my unique biochemistry and which flower essences would best correct any energetic imbalances. And it helps me determine the effectiveness of the energy healing techniques I use – like Reiki, Healing Touch, Craniosacral therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). How can a piece of wood do all that?
A pendulum is a type of dowsing tool, which have been used since ancient times to detect energetic frequencies. Scientists have determined that dowsers can pick up these frequencies through sensors in the solar plexus and the brain. The frequencies are amplified by the fluid in my body and read through the movement of the dowsing tool as it is held in my hand. Using one requires some practice, suspending self-doubt, and being centered. It’s my most valued tool for working with the energy of life that determines our health.
Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens. Brown paper packages tied up with strings. These are a few of my favorite things.
~ from The Sound of Music
When life gets overwhelming it helps to simplify by focusing on the little things all around us for inspiration. The perfection of a flower. The
softness of a cat’s fur. The sound of
birds chirping. The smell of banana bread baking in the oven. A hug from a loved one. When we focus on the sights,
sounds, smells, and touches in our environment, we shift into the present moment -- and out of the overwhelm.
If you are going through a difficult time, take some extra time for yourself and focus on the little things -- the everyday ways that energy medicine is available to us. Close your eyes, breathe, check in with your body. Are you tight, tense? What is your favorite way to relax? A hot bath? Stretching your muscles? Whatever you eat -- really focus on the smell and taste and enjoy your food. Get some time outside to take in the sight, sounds, and smells of spring. Simplify. Breathe. Empty your mind. What do you notice? What are a few of your favorite things?
(photo credit Hazel Billingsley)
Day 20 of Health Activist Writer's Month Challenge and my writing prompt it – what gets you out of the pit of despair when nothing goes your way? The answer – perspective! How I get to that perspective varies, but usually journaling does it. As I am pouring out my despair on paper, I start to recognize that I am in victim consciousness. The answer is always to shift to my higher self, which happens through dialoguging with myself.
First I write out what is causing me despair – holding nothing back. Usually while listening to music and after lighting a candle. I just get the whole thing out without any editing. No self-criticism and taking as long as I need. And I have a good cry. Then I ask myself “if I were my own best friend, or if i was one of my clients, how would I respond?” This helps me shift into a state of self-compassion and acceptance. And that brings perspective – the realization that the world is not against me. I am just looking at the world through the filter of a victim.
When you have been victimized in life, regardless of the circumstance, it’s easy to start looking at life as a victim and interpreting life's difficulties as "nothing is going my way." But this belief system tends to
attract more instances of feeling victimized. The "cure" is love. Love in the form of self-compassion and acceptance. Love for every single aspect of you -- including the part of you that is feeling like a victim, and the part that may be judging you for feeling that way. The energy of unconditional love heals all.
Newton tells us,
Energy is what drives your body-mind, not biochemistry, or Dunkin’ Donuts.
Real energy flows from within, unless you’ve
Got a disruption;
You can tell if this is the case,
Most likely through intuition; for
Energy blockages precede
Dis-ease and other
Courage is what you need, to choose a higher level of awareness; a way of life that
Includes loving yourself, self-compassion and acceptance.
Now we know that the
Energy of love, is what creates health, happiness, and radiance.
My writing prompt for Health Activist Writers Month Challenge is -- write about your favorite social network. My favorite social network is Pinterest, and here’s why: because images come before words. In other words, communication through images is pre-verbal. And when we work with images, we access deeper parts of us. In particular, I think Pinterest works well for vision boarding and self-exploration, while creating connections with others.
Pinterest is great
for working with the law of attraction through virtual vision boarding. What we focus on creates our reality, so by creating a Pinterest board of
your goals and dreams, you manifest them into reality. Pick images that produce a positive emotional reaction of excitement and gratitude, and visit your board regularly. Examples include a board representing a balanced, healthy life, dream relationship, or a bucket list of your goals.
Pinterest is also a
wonderful medium for enhancing self-awareness and self-acceptance. We can explore all the aspects of ourselves by creating a board for
each of our interests and passions, and connecting with others with similar
interests. When you get into a playful state of mind, you never know what you will discover about yourself and what insights you will gain. For example, even though I have been an ordained healing minister since
1996, I had put my ordination paperwork away in a drawer and didn't give it much thought until last year. Awakening to, embracing, and celebrating this spiritual leader part of myself included creating a wedding officiant Pinterest board. I have since connected to wedding officiants
throughout the country through a shared Pinterest board.
These activities relieve stress, move us toward integration and wholeness, add pleasure to our lives, and enhance our health. What uses of Pinterest have you discovered?
Whether you are a parent, a caregiver, or in a helping profession – it’s easy to forget about your own needs when you are caring for others. But if you don’t put yourself first, you can quickly become burned out and unable to provide care to others. Here are some tips for caregivers:
Many of us have been taught that self-care is selfish or that we aren’t worthy of it. These negative thoughts are a sign of an energy blockage. I use EFT everyday in my personal life and with my clients and have found it to be the most effective techniques I use in my professional energy healing practice. Don't know how to acutap? Click on the link above, or make an appointment with a professional. You can also find a thorough explanation of energy blocks, an acutapping chart, and tapping affirmations and tips in my book.
2. Schedule consistent time for self-care
When planning what you need to accomplish in your day, put self-care at the top of the list. It’s like making sure there’s gas in your tank before driving somewhere. That self-care can include such activities as a hobby, lunch with friends, writing in your journal, meditation and deep breathing, or yoga. Don't think you have time? When we set the intention to make self-care a priority and remove the blocks, its amazing how time just opens up in our life to do so.
3.Know your limits
Learn to recognize the signs that you have reached your “giving” limit. Most of us can tell when we are tired, but how about headaches, difficulty focusing, sleep disturbances, or feeling pessimistic? All these can be a sign that you need to replenish.
In my healing practice I know how many clients I can see each day and I don’t overschedule myself. Believe me; this can be difficult when there’s someone in need. It requires me to have trust and faith in the unlimited nature of the universe, knowing that there’s always enough time and resources for everyone’s needs and I don't have to be the sole provider! If you have negative thoughts to the contrary, see #1!
When I was a teenager, a stray dog showed up at our property and appointed himself our watchdog. He patrolled the wrought iron fence and barked at anyone who walked by. He had decided he was our dog, and we agreed, naming him Red after his golden-red coat of fur. His breed? We could only guess – Golden Retriever? A bit of Collie?
Red was friendly and sociable, but he would yelp in panic and dive under furniture at the sound of a car backfiring or a gun firing on TV. He had arrived at our house with a streak of singed fur along his temple and we made up a backstory that he had been grazed by a bullet that passed near his head. Since he already knew how to sit, stay, roll over and shake paws, we concluded his previous owners had taught him tricks. But when we tried to brush him, he cowered and winced at the sight of the brush, as if he had been abused.
In my active imagination, I imagined that Red had escaped from his abusers in a dramatic scene that included gunfire. I pictured him wandering in a daze for many miles, until he came upon our house and decided we needed him. Whatever the real story, I was grateful for the angel dog that had come out of nowhere at a time when I desperately needed protection and unconditional love.
Red died over 30 years ago, not long after I left home and got married. The way he died is too awful to recount here, but let it suffice to say that it was fear that killed him. It was his fear of loud noises that caused him to panic and try to escape his enclosure – inadvertently killing himself in the process.
Fear may not kill us as swiftly as it did Red. But fear can kill us slowly. It robs us of happiness and joy. It destroys our courage and blocks our growth. It eats away at our health. But fear is not something we can escape. Rather, fear can be transformed through compassion, unconditional love, and self-acceptance. RIP my dear friend Red.
April 6, 1993
Dear younger self,
I know that after so many years of unsuccessful infertility treatment, you have lost your faith. You are afraid it will never happen and that all your effort will have been for not. You feel like you are being punished, but have no idea what for. And you feel like your body has betrayed you.
When things don’t happen in the timetable we expect, we lose faith that it will ever happen. But I’m asking you to trust. Trust that no matter what, you will be happy. Trust that this time has not been wasted. Trust that there are no mistakes. And trust that all the hard work you have done has planted the seeds that will grow and transform your life.
I can tell you this – your life is going to change dramatically because of this experience. You will have an amazing new and fulfilling career. Your relationships will deepen. You will learn how to really love and accept yourself, and you will feel like a different person with a different state of mind and being. Wonder how all that is going to happen? You can read all about it in January 2013 when your book is published!How do I know all this? Because I’m you…20 years in the future